Right of Wife over the Husband

باب حق المرأة على الزوج

 

Chapter on the right of the wife on the husband

 

4525 - روى العلاء بن رزين، عن محمد بن مسلم عن أبي جعفر عليه السلام قال: ((قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله وسلم: أوصاني جبرئيل عليه السلام بالمرأة حتى ظننت أنه لا ينبغي طلاقها إلا من فاحشة مبينة).

 

4525 – al-`Alā’ b. Razīn related from Muḥammad b. Muslim from Abū Ja`far عليه السلام. He said: The Messenger of Allāh وسلم صلى الله عليه واله said:

 

Jibra’īl عليه السلام enjoined me regarding the wife to the extent that I reckoned that her divorce was not appropriate except in the case of an open indecency[1].

 

4526 - وسأل إسحاق بن عمار أبا عبدالله عليه السلام (عن حق المرأة على زوجها قال: يشبع بطنها، ويكسو جثتها، وإن جهلت غفر لها).

 

4526 – Isḥāq b. `Ammār asked Abū `Abdillāh عليه السلام about the right of the woman on her husband. He said:

 

He feeds her (stomach), clothes her (body) and if she acts ignorantly [lit. she is ignorant], he forgives her.

 

4527 - (إن إبراهيم خليل الرحمن عليه السلام شكا إلى الله عزوجل خلق سارة فأوحى الله عزوجل إليه إن مثل المرأة مثل الضلع إن أقمته انكسر، وإن تركته استمتعت به، قلت: من قال هذا؟ فغضب، ثم قال: هذا والله قول رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله).

 

4527 – Ibrāhīm عليه السلام, the khalīl (close friend) of the Beneficent, complained to Allāh عزوجل about Sārah’s nature. So Allāh عزوجل revealed to him:

 

The similitude of the woman is as the similitude of the rib. If you [try to] straighten it, it will break and if you leave it, you will benefit from it. I [the narrator] said: Who said this? He was furious; then he said: This, by Allāh, is the saying of the Messenger of Allāh صلى الله عليه واله.

 

4528 - وقال أبوعبدالله عليه السلام: (كانت لابي عليه السلام إمرأة وكانت تؤذيه فكان يغفر لها).

 

4528 – Abū `Abdillāh عليه السلام said:

 

My father عليه السلام had a wife who would torment him but he would forgive her.

 

4529 - وروى عاصم بن حميد، عن أبي بصير قال: (سمعت أبا جعفر عليه السلام يقول: من كانت عنده امرأة فلم يكسها مايواري عورتها ويطعمها ما يقيم صلبها كان حقا على الامام أن يفرق بينهما).

 

4529 – `Āṣim b. Ḥamīd related from Abū Baṣīr. He said: I heard Abū `Ja`far عليه السلام say:

 

It is a right upon the Imām to bring about separation between the couple, when the one who has a wife does not cover that which should be concealed of her `awrah[2] nor feeds her that which straightens her backbone.[3]

 

4530 - وروى ربعي بن عبدالله،. والفضيل بن يسار عن أبي عبدالله عليه السلام (في قوله عزوجل: (ومن قدر عليه رزقه فلينفق مما آتاه الله) قال: إن أنفق عليها ما يقيم ظهرها مع كسوة وإلا فرق بينهما).

 

4530 – And Rab`ī b. `Abdullāh and Fuḍayl b. Yasār related from Abū `Abdillāh عليه السلام about His عزوجل’s saying:

 

And whoever has his sustenance straitened upon him, let him spend out of what Allāh has given him[4]. He said: He spends on her what straightens her back along with clothing, else, separation is brought about between them.

 

4531 - وروى أبوالصباح الكناني عن أبي عبدالله عليه السلام قال: (إذا صلت المرأة خمسها، وصامت شهرها، وحجت بيت ربها، وأطاعت زوجها، وعرفت حق علي عليه السلام فلتدخل من أي أبواب الجنان شاء‌ت).

 

4531 – And Abū al-Ṣabāḥ al-Kinānī related from Abū `Abdillāh عليه السلام. He said:

 

When the woman prays her five [daily prayers], fasts her month [of Ramaḍān], makes pilgrimage to the House of her Lord, is obedient to her husband and recognises the right of `Alī عليه السلام, then she enters from whichever of the gates of the gardens she wishes.

 

4532 - وروى محمد بن أبي عمير، عن عبدالله بن سنان عن أبى عبدالله عليه السلام قال: (إن رجلا من الانصار على عهد رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله خرج في بعض حوائجه وعهد إلى امرأته عهدا ألا تخرج من بيتها حتى يقدم، قال: وإن أباها مرض فبعثت المرأة إلى رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله فقالت: إن زوجي خرج وعهد إلي أن لا أخرج من بيتي حتى يقدم وإن أبي مريض فتأمرني أن أعوده؟ فقال: لا اجلسي في بيتك وأطيعي زوجك، قال: فمات فبعثت إليه فقالت: يا رسول الله إن أبي قدمات فتأمرني أن أصلي عليه؟ فقال: لا أجلسي في بيتك وأطيعي زوجك، قال: فدفن الرجل فبعث إليها رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله: ان الله عزوجل قد غفر لك ولابيك بطاعتك لزوجك).

 

4532 – And Muḥammad b. Abī `Umayr related from `Abdullāh b. Sinān from Abū `Abdillāh عليه السلام. He said:

 

A man from the Anṣār in the time of the Messenger of Allāh صلى الله عليه واله left for [meeting] some of his needs and enjoined his wife with an oath that she shall not leave her house until he arrived. Then he said: Her father fell sick. So the woman sent towards the Messenger of Allāh صلى الله عليه واله and said: My husband left and enjoined me that I not leave my house until he arrived. And my father is ailing. So do you command me to visit him? He said: No. Stay in your house and obey your husband. He said: Then he died and she sent to him and said: O’ Messenger of Allāh! My father has died. Do you command me to pray over him? He said: No. Stay in your house and obey your husband. He said: So the man was buried and the Messenger of Allāh صلى الله عليه واله sent to her (saying): Verily, Allāh عزوجل has forgiven you and your father due to your obedience of your husband.

 

4533 - وسئل الصادق عليه السلام عن قول الله عزوجل: (قوا أنفسكم وأهليكم نارا) كيف نقيهن؟ قال: تأمرونهن وتنهونهن، قيل له: إنا نأمرهن وننهاهن فلا يقبلن، قال: إذا أمرتموهن ونهيتموهن فقد قضيتم ما عليكم).

 

4533 – And al-Ṣādiq عليه السلام was asked about the saying of Allāh عزوجل: Save yourselves and your families from the Fire[5]. How do we guard them (f.)? He said:

 

Enjoin them [with goodness] and forbid them [from evil]. It was said to him: We enjoin them [with goodness] and forbid them [from evil] but they do not accept. He said: When you have enjoined and forbidden them, you have fulfilled what was upon you.


4534 - وروى عبدالله بن سنان عن أبي عبدالله عليه السلام قال: (ألهموهن حب علي عليه السلام وذروهن بلهاء).

 

4534 – And `Abdullāh b. Sinān related from Abū `Abdillāh عليه السلام. He said:

 

Inspire them with the love of `Alī عليه السلام and leave them simpleminded[6].

 

4535 - وروى إسماعيل بن أبي زياد عن جعفر بن محمد عن أبيه عليهما السلام عن آبائه عليهم السلام قال: (قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله: لا تنزلوا نساء‌كم الغرف ولا تعلموهن الكتابة، ولا تعلموهن سورة يوسف، وعلموهن المغزل وسورة النور).

 

4535 – And Ismā`īl b. Abī Ziyād related from Ja`far b. Muḥammad from his father عليهما السلام from his fathers عليهم السلام. He said: The Messenger of Allāh صلى الله عليه واله said:

 

Do not let your women descend from the room nor teach them to write. And do not teach them Sūrah Yūsuf but teach them to spin and (teach them) Sūrat al-Nūr.[7]

 

4536 - وروى ضريس الكناسي عن أبي عبدالله عليه السلام قال: (إن امرأة أتت رسول الله صلى الله عليه واله لبعض الحاجة، فقال لها: لعلك من المسوفات؟ فقالت: وما المسوفات يا رسول الله؟ فقال: المرأة يدعوها زوجها لبعض الحاجة فلا تزال تسوفه حتى ينعس زوجها فينام فتلك لا تزال الملائكة تلعنها حتى يستيقظ زوجها).

 

4536 – And Ḍurays al-Kannāsī related from Abū `Abdillāh عليه السلام. He said:

 

A woman came to the Messenger of Allāh صلى الله عليه واله with some need. So he said to her: Perhaps you are from the masūfāt? She said: And what is al-masūfāt, O’ Rasūl-Allāh? He said: A woman who, when her husband calls her for some need, continues to delay him until her husband dozes off and falls asleep. Then the angels continue to curse her till her husband wakes up.

 

4537 - وقال الصادق عليه السلام: (رحم الله عبدا أحسن فيما بينه وبين زوجته فإن الله عزوجل قد ملكه ناصيتها وجعله القيم عليها).

 

4537 – And al-Ṣādiq عليه السلام said:

 

May Allāh have mercy on the servant who acts well in what is between him and his wife[8], for Allāh عزوجل has made him own her by the forelock and has made him a custodian over her[9].

 

4538 - وقال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وآله: (خيركم خيركم لنسائه، وأنا خيركم لنسائي).

 

4538 – And Rasūl-Allāh صلى الله عليه واله said:

 

The best of you is the best of you to his women and I am the best of you all towards my women.[10]



[1] Zinā

[2] In the case of a free woman, all of her person save the area of the face wiped in wuḍū’, the hands up to the wrists and/or the feet

[3] [Meaning, the judge compels him for maintenance or alāq as per ability and it was well-known among the companions that insolvency is not due to a defect which necessitates fiskh (annulment of the marriage). Its stipulation for the validity of the `aqd is understood from the statements of some of them. Ibn Idrīs held the view of immutability of power of attorney for the woman in case of insolvency of the husband prior to the `aqd and her ignorance of the same and he also transmitted the immutability of power of attorney for her in case of renewal of insolvency from Ibn al-Junayd. The Shaykh Fakhr al-Dīn related a saying from some of the `ulamā’ that the judge brings about separation between the couple]

[4] Sūrat al-Ṭalāq 65:7

[5] Sūrat al-Taḥrīm 66:6

[6] [Meaning, talk to them about some of the virtues of Amīr al-mu’minīn `Alī عليه السلام, his glorious feats, his īmān in Allāh, his jihād in His way, his selfless devotion in the love of Rasūl-Allāh صلى الله عليه واله, his justice in distribution, his `ibādāt and his judgments until genuine love for him arises in their hearts. Then leave them, not teaching them the minutiae of the dīn nor apprising them of the reality of the wilāyah]

[7] [It is al-Sukūnī, the `āmmī (non-shī`ī) and this is from him alone, the arīq to him being a`īf as is in al-Kāfī too]

[8] [Meaning, excels in the rights pertaining to her which are binding on him]

[9] [As Allāh Ta`ālā says in Sūrat al-Nisā’ 4:34 : Men are the maintainers of women because Allāh has made some of them to excel over others and because they expend of their property… (al-āyah)]

[10]  [ibn Mājah related it in his Sunan by a aī sanad from them from ibn `Abbās with these words: The best of you is the best of you to his family and I am the best of you all to my family. And ibn `Asākir produced it in al-Tārīkh by a aī sanad from them from `Alī عليه السلام. The intent is that the best of you is the most superior of you all in kindness, usefulness, religion and the world to his women or his family]

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